Unless the girl you’re pining for is your Facebook
friend with a public relationship status, it’s almost impossible to tell
whether she’s dating someone or not. If you’re too shy to ask her point-blank
for fear of getting rejected, we have a few ways that can help you decipher
whether she’s single or taken.
The only people who are obviously not single are the
ones walking around sporting diamond rings or the ones that have another human
being strapped to their arms. Aside from that, you can hardly tell if a girl is
single or not.
Some girls, on the other hand, may have that
lovey-dovey glow, but that could be attributed to a good day at the gym or a
palm-full of vitamins. Girls, being girls and all, have a certain je ne sais
quoi wafting around them. Unfortunately for you, that same air of mystery can
make it hard to know whether they’re waiting for their boyfriend or not
Yes,
there are methods to help you determine whether the girl you like is spoken for
or not. However, there are unforeseen factors that can mess these up.
#1 She’s in a
long-distance relationship. Just because she looks
single and exhibits all the signs of being single, it doesn’t mean that there
isn’t a guy out there waiting for her. He could be on the other side of town or
the other side of the world. Just because you can’t see him, doesn’t mean that
he’s not there.
#2 She’s a
cheater. Cheating women make a point of
broadcasting their availability. Don’t be fooled by this type of woman. Nobody
wins in this situation, no matter how badly you want her.
#3 She’s in an open
relationship. Women in open relationships
technically aren’t single. They are dateable, but unless they’re willing to let
go of the other guy, you will never have her all to yourself.
Sadly,
there’s no specific trait that can confirm a person’s status. People in
relationships don’t have their own language, nor do they have an exclusive
dress code. You’ll just have to settle for the most likely tells like the ones
mentioned below.
#1 She looks made up in
a neutral setting. If a girl goes full-on
Glamazon just for a coffee run, it’s pretty likely that she made the extra
effort to look like she’s on her way to a premiere. The verdict being that she
likes looking her best, because she’s hoping to get noticed by the adorable
strangers she might run into.
#2 She glances at men
who pass by 80% of the time. Women who are in a
relationship do not feel the need to scope out the selection of eligible
bachelors within the vicinity. The best case scenario would be that she’s
appreciative of guys because she’s not seeing anyone. The worst case scenario
would be that she’s a little too interested in other men while her boyfriend’s
in the restroom.
#3 She’s always with
her friends. If you have a crush on the girl
who always shares the same coffee shop as you, there will come a point when she
brings her boyfriend along. If she’s single, she will always hang out with the
same platonic-looking group of friends whenever you see her.
#4 She tends to
people-watch. If the girl you like isn’t showing
any signs of flirting with other men in places where people regularly get
together, you can still find out if she’s single just by noticing how she
reacts to people. Girls who have boyfriends tend to ignore other people when
they’re out with their friends. Single girls want to meet people, hence, the
people-watching.
#5 She doesn’t check
her phone all the time. If a girl has a
boyfriend, it’s highly likely that they’d be in contact regularly. Some girls
just don’t like checking their phone all the time, even if they do have a
boyfriend, but the probability of that is very, very slim.
So,
you’ve established that she looks single. But is she really? When asking a girl
directly if she’s single, you are in effect asking her is she would like not to
be. Some guys find this tacky, while most girls find it lacking any sort of
pre-emptive seduction factor. It seems businesslike and devoid of the necessary
nuisances of modern courtship, because she already knows what the guy wants
from her.
Make
it a little interesting by not asking her if she’s single and just read the
signs that she is indeed interested in exploring this new-found connection.
#1 She makes eye
contact. If she wants to talk to you, she will be
more than willing to look at you. Even if she’s not making direct eye contact,
her face will be angled towards you in anticipation for the inevitable locking
of gazes.
#2 She smiles at you. If
she doesn’t do this immediately, make the first move and show her those pearly
whites. A girl who is single and interested is more likely to smile back and
keep eye contact, while a girl who has a boyfriend will smile awkwardly and
turn away – for good. There are no look-backs with this one.
#3 She doesn’t make an
excuse to leave the conversation. Girls who aren’t
interested will either seem uninterested in what you have to say or make a
point of ending the conversation immediately.
#4 She doesn’t check to
look around when you start talking to her. If
she does this, she might be waiting for her boyfriend to show up. If she’s
waiting for a friend, it still doesn’t look like a good sign. She’s probably
checking to see if someone can save her from talking to you.
#5 She doesn’t check
her phone while talking to you. If she does,
she’s either scared that her boyfriend is going to call or she’s not interested
in talking to you. Either way, you lose.
It’s not easy to know whether a person is single
just by looking at them, but it is possible. It’s not a definite confirmation,
but it will help you make the first move. You will never know if you have a
chance at the girl you like if you don’t go up to her and say, “Hi.”
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